Which Is More Important in a Relationship, Money or Attention?

 Money or attention,  which is more important? 

The importance of money and attention in a relationship cannot be overemphasized. Money is the oil that makes the relationship go smoothly. Many relationships and marriages had broken up today because there is no money to make the ride enjoyable. Yet, there have been countless relationships where there was enough money, yet they’d broken up too.
On the other hand, attention too is very vital in a relationship.  There have been many cases of divorce and broken relationships because one of the partners is not always available to feel the void that the other partner feels within.

Sometimes in a relationship, one begins to crave for more time, love, money and attention from one’s partner. When one is unable to get this, you begin to wonder if your partner truly loves you or he or she is just wasting your time.

Between money and attention, which one should one ask for from one’s partner?
To start with, money is good, especially in a relationship. If there is enough money, you can buy the latest fashion kits, latest and smartest phone and go to places. In the same vein, if your partner has enough money, he or she will be able to afford your basic needs and make you the envy of your friends and families. Imagine waking up with the assurance that there is money to buy whatever you need. This sense of security is comparable to none.

There are girlfriends and housewives who have money to buy whatever they want with the help of their husbands and boyfriends’ money. These women ride posh cars and go on vacation to the most beautiful places in the world but often times, and they go alone because their husbands or boyfriends are busy somewhere making money. Despite everything that their husbands, fiancés and boyfriends had provided, these women still cheat. The question now is, what else do they want after they had been given everything?

What about relationships where though there is no enough money, enough attention is given to one’s partner yet the partner is still not satisfied? This brought to my mind some neighbours that I had some years back. In the tenement building where I lived, there were two families that inspired me into making this post.  In the first family, the man was a teacher in a school so he was almost always at home except those times when he was to be in school. He was always at home during the public holidays and at weekends.  But this man and his wife were always quarrelling.

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At first, the quarrel started from the corners of their room but soon, it became so loud that people in other houses nearby could hear their voices.  This family already had two kids. There was a particular day that they physically fought. The man had slapped the woman for calling him lazy and poor. In her words she said “You are always sitting at home when your mates are out there, making money to take care of their families”. All the neighbours had intervened that day and settled the quarrel but it did not end there. The woman left the man a couple of weeks later, taking their two kids with her.

The second family was living in one of the flats beside mine. The man was one of those business men who travelled a lot. He seldom stays at home. Often times, he would come back home once a month and before the day breaks, he was gone again. But the wife was well taken care of. Their daughter attended the best school, wore the best cloth and had the most expensive toys in the neigbourhood. The wife too had a car of her own and she attended parties with the latest cloths. When it comes to paying the rent and utility bill in the building, she always paid before everyone else. Yet, she had been cheating on her husband and we all knew it. Sometimes when her daughter had gone to school, she would invite other men over into her flat and sometimes, these men (one at a time), spent days cooped up with her in the flat and I will leave what happens next to your imagination.
Of course, she was not so lucky because the husband came one day, unannounced and met one of those men in her flat.  At the time I had travelled but when I came back I was told in details what happened. The husband almost killed the concubine and he had sent the wife packing from his house.
Thinking about the two families now, I think I have identified what their problems were.

In the frist family, the man was available and he gave his wife enough attention but not enough money. In the other family, the man wasn’t available yet he had provided enough money to make his wife and daughter live well but money had not been enough too to make the wife loyal. Who could blame her? What was she supposed to do at nights when she was lonely and cold? Can the money be the strong arms to hold and comfort her? What was she supposed to do when she felt horny and sexy?
Then in the other family, though the man was available yet what was the usefulness of his availability if he could not afford the basic things that his family needed? What is the importance of his attention if his wife cannot buy the latest cloth, shoes and handbags to attend parties? Of what use is the attention if their kids cannot wear good cloths and eat good foods?

At this juncture, I think both are absolutely necessary in a relationship but in most cases, it is impossible to have both. Hardly will someone have a partner that is both attentive and rich enough to provide everything that someone needs. It is not impossibility but it is very rare. Most people have to choose one. You will either choose a partner that is not rich enough to give you the world but he or she is available whenever you want or you go for a partner that has enough money to meet your needs but less time to be with you. The question is, which do you prefer in a relationship, MONEY or ATTENTION?


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